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Image courtesy of Museum of Fine Arts, Houston
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Tonight let’s go to the Museum of Fine Arts. There are multiple exhibits to enjoy, so you should be able to find
something that tickles your fancy.
Here’s the goal though, you aren’t really here for
the art this time (though I’ve heard it’s quite good) tonight you’re at the
museum because it’s a neutral zone for both of you to practice your listening
skills! Tonight you’re going to ask each other questions about the art, about
your interests or whatever gets your spouse talking, and practice not
interrupting!
We want to be good communicators, but sometimes
interrupting can lead to miscommunication or even send the message that the
thing your spouse is saying is completely unimportant. I’m less likely to feel
safe when I feel unimportant, so help each other drop the defensive walls by
really listening and engaging in conversations that matter to the other person!
And remember, accept responsibility if you interrupt by sincerely apologizing.
Go on, give it a try!
*This series of dates is a little
unique. You can focus on each of these one week at a time during four
consecutive weeks, or if you’re feeling overwhelmed then try doing one
of these dates each month and working on the goals for each over a month
period while have some lighthearted dates in between each concept.
**For more complete information regarding elements of the 4 Horsemen concept please consider studying John Gottman's Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work available here for purchase: Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work
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