An Italian-American cuisine restaurant
Read this quote together over dinner:
"We need an unspoiled companion who will not count our wrinkles,
remember our stupidities nor remember our weaknesses, we need a loving
companion with who we have suffered and wept...One with whom we have
suffered sorrow and disappointments, one who loves us for what we are or intend to be rather than what we appear to be in our gilded shell." -Spencer W. KimballIt's so easy to focus on what we want our spouse to be instead of just loving them for who they are. Do we love them in their wrinkles or do we keep nagging them to inject Botox?
John Gottman Spent 35 years in research observing couples in "Love Labs" and can predict divorce with 94% accuracy. He found that couples that get divorces have a positive to negative ratio of 0.8 that means for every 8 positive things said, there are 10 negative.That's a lot of wrinkle counting!
Where as happy couples have a Positive to Negative ration of 5 to 1.
While waiting for your food, make a list of all the things you love about your spouse, not mentioning their wrinkles. Bring up the positive ratio!
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